tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638093452269347327.post3028849647827598707..comments2010-02-25T20:19:36.371-07:00Comments on The Deep Water Leaf Society: What's the point?Claire, Deep Water Leaf Societyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10294343630171279771noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638093452269347327.post-43160307503154213752008-04-20T09:14:00.000-07:002008-04-20T09:14:00.000-07:00I absolutely agree with you, tglb. I think many of...I absolutely agree with you, tglb. I think many of us struggle terribly with the idea of "letting go" because we feel that by "letting go" we are dishonoring someone who is very important to us. It seems like we're being asked to "let go" of that person and pretend we no longer have a relationship with them. <BR/><BR/>One of the main messages I hope people get from my story is that we DO (or at least CAN) continue to have a relationship with our deceased loved ones. Communication and healing can continue. <BR/><BR/>We do need to let go of the pain, eventually, or it will eat us alive. And there's no way to hold on to the old life, because it's certainly gone. It is far more healthy to proactively create your new life in a way that works for you than to build an empty shrine to the old life. Over and over, the message I got from Cameron was, "Live your life, Mom. Be happy."<BR/><BR/>So, yes, let go of the pain and the old life - but by all means continue your relationship. We don't really die, you know. We simply shift into new form and the veil is very thin between here and there. Cameron is talking to me all the time and I know he helped me to write the book.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comment!Claire, Deep Water Leaf Societyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10294343630171279771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-638093452269347327.post-72012456012466739262008-04-19T22:36:00.000-07:002008-04-19T22:36:00.000-07:00I think I have a sense of where you stand on this,...I think I have a sense of where you stand on this, but I'd like to ask outright: How do you feel about the idea of "letting go" and what that actually means? I've been seeing a lot of those words lately, but I don't see why I cannot continue to have a relationship with my loved one in this new context while continuing to live my life. But no one really addresses that. I think it's enough to let go of the pain, and perhaps the delusion that one can hold on to the old life as it used to include the loved one. What do you think?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com